Overcoming long distance relationship issues.

Long distance relationships are usually never planned yet it seems to always fall on the laps of unsuspecting couples. The hardship and strain of long distance does not spare anyone be it race, gender, class etc.. It scares the strongest of men and the toughest of women. It divides the closest and most loving partners and leaves them heart broken.
Every one involved in a long distance relationship has at some point developed ways to close the distance. Skype has been of tremendous help, blackberry messenger has done nothing short of bring couples closer and regular calls fosters nearness. Technology has sorted out the major issue with communicating in relationships but do couples just talk or do they actually communicate.A major puzzle is that about five decades ago and beyond, men and women who were forced into long distance relationship coped well, there were no computers or  phones and depending on what era and country, letters took ages to get delivered and telegrams were too short to convey and express a lovers feeling or emotion. Some had spouses who had gone to war, spouses who they may never see for years, spouses they cannot communicate with if they are at the war front. Not withstanding the distance or the uncertainty of the day they will meet again, couples stood strong and here were no stories of heart breaks. What makes that era different from now???
There are certain principles in life that applies to every man and woman, such principles do not discriminate and if lived by, everyone would reap its fruits. What goes for the goes also goes for the gander!!!
An individual who is faced with long distance relationship should sit back and evaluate himself. He should remain sincere with himself and ask himself if he loves his spouse enough to engage in the distance. If he cannot answer this question or his answer is NO then he should walk away from the relationship immediately and not embark on the journey of a long distance relationship. Commitment is very crucial in a relationship and if a couple have not set their hearts to remaining committed then a long distance relationship is not for them neither is a serious relationship. A relationship without trust is a relation heading for the rocks. If prior to a long distance relationship,  man or woman finds that trusting her boyfriend or fiancé is an issue the distance will reveal the lack of trust and the relationship is doomed!!! A relationship in which there is no understanding is sure to have lots of storms. Understanding ones partner allows a man or woman know when to talk and when not to. Understanding will reduce unnecessary fights, it will make a couple laugh off what others will see as potential fight. No man can ever go wrong with love, trust commitment and understanding.
When the issues of love, trust, commitment and understanding have been absorbed and is evident in a relationship, then the chances of it working is very high. It would then be easy to spice up the relationship with  these other tips; kind words, constant communication, surprises, avoid jealousy and be positive!